Becoming a mother can be one of the biggest changes in your life. Alongside love and joy, it can bring unexpected feelings, challenges and questions about who you are now and you may find yourself feeling overwhelmed, anxious, disconnected or unlike the person you were before having a baby.
Perhaps you miss parts of your old life, feel that your needs have disappeared beneath everyone else's, or struggle with the pressure to enjoy every moment. You might love your baby deeply while also finding motherhood harder than you expected.
Having a baby can change how you see yourself and your place in the world. You may feel that the person you were before has somehow disappeared, or that you are still trying to work out who you are now.
You might miss your independence, confidence, friendships, work or the freedom to make choices for yourself. These feelings can be difficult to admit, especially when you feel you should simply be grateful.
Counselling can help you explore these changes without judgement.
The constant responsibility of caring for your baby can leave very little time or energy for yourself. You may feel touched out, exhausted, overwhelmed or as though you are always thinking about what everyone else needs.
There can be pressure to manage everything, make the right decisions and keep going, even when you are struggling.
Counselling offers an opportunity to pause, put your own feelings into words and consider what support you need.
Becoming parents can bring significant changes to your relationships.
You may feel disconnected from your partner, find yourselves arguing more often or struggle to share the responsibilities of family life.
Friendships and family relationships can change too, and you may feel that others don't quite understand what you are going through. Having space to explore these changes can help you understand what is happening and what matters to you.
You may not want to go back to the person you were before having a baby, but you might want to feel more like yourself again.
Counselling can help you make sense of the person you are becoming, recognise your needs and explore how to make space for yourself alongside motherhood.
This isn't about being a perfect mother or getting everything right; it's about finding a way of being a mother that also allows you to be you.
You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from having someone to talk to. Whether motherhood has felt different from what you expected, or you have gradually lost touch with parts of yourself, counselling can offer space to explore this. You are allowed to have mixed feelings, and you deserve support too.
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